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SM: What do you think it was that triggered this in you? Why couldn’t you diet in a healthy way or accept your body as it was? Was this really even about the way you looked?
Lindsay: I thought at first it was all clearly body image; looking back now it was my feeling of losing control focused in on my body image. I was always very muscular. In seventh grade I was called, um, “manly” by some of the boys because I was in a lot of sports. But I remember it stuck with me.
My father has a lot of issues as far as body image goes. I had had comments from him about my thighs, like “Oh, you better watch out.” He loved to work out and I believe a part of my desire to work out was to please him and be with him more, but I took it to a more obsessive level.
It’s almost as if with an eating disorder you can’t say, “Oh it stems from one thing.” It’s a bunch of little things that just start piling up and coming together and, if you have the right personality, something can just trigger it.
SM: What kind of personality?
Lindsay: A perfectionist. I’m a compulsive people-pleaser: I want everyone to love me.
SM: So how long did it take from “putting the burger down” to developing into a serious disorder?
Lindsay: It took me six months to get to being so scared to eat anything. [About that time] my mom began to see the changes in my attitude and body, so I began to see a therapist and nutrition counselor to appease my family. But I didn’t see what they saw. I didn’t think that I was skinny and [the voices in my head] told me everyone was trying to make me fat.
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Thank you for sharing your story. I have met you and I am so impressed with your strength! You are a beautiful person. I wish the best for you! A friend! |
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| My best friend has had an eating disorder for at least four years and she doesn't seem to be improving. I just don't know what to do or say anymore. I think she should get serious help but I'm not sure if it's my place to step in. How can I tell her without pushing her away? | |
| LS -- New York City | |
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THANK YOU FOR THIS STORY. I can relate to soooo many things that Lindsay said. I'm a people pleaser to a fault, and I love when people say i look too skinny. When people tell me I look healthy, I take it as an insult and it motivates me to diet or work out more. Also, I have the "radar" and can spot someone with eating problems a mile away. Though i don't have full blown anorexia, I have definite food issues. Thanks for the reminder of how scary it could be if I let them get the best of me. LS |
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| TinaVail -- Ojai | |
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There is a book by Marion Woodman called Addicted to Perfection that might be helpful to anyone suffering from an eating disorder. Thank you SavvyMiss for getting this article out. It helps us all to be informed about this...and thank you Lindsey for your courage to speak. |
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