Stationary.
When I realized every one of my girlfriends uses the same Kate Spade stationary, my cards didn’t seem so personal anymore. I found a couple of websites that let you either customize their site’s existing stationary or work with their designers to create completely unique notes. My favorites were v : space studio, whose cards have an antique, glam style, and Paper + Cup, which has more of a mod look. If you choose the complete customization option, v : space studio co-creator Karen Viray suggests that you incorporate your personal style, event theme, inspiring thoughts or even your favorite purse. I plan to design my stationary based on my bedspread pattern, so, really, you can do anything.

With these signature sites there’s no way you’ll show up for dinner with the same clutch as your best friend. But if she still finds a way to copy your customized creation then perhaps you might look into finding a new friend. Because that’s just creepy.

“Grace” clutch with Cathedral Gates print and Midnight Faux suede ruffle $75 at 1154lillstudio.com; “Imeldea” flats with Lake Placid print, $165 at 1154lillstudio.com; Pepperface safety devices, from $35; www.pepperface.com; Customized Girl boy briefs $16 at customizedgirl.com; V: space studio "The Signature" blank note cards (without customization), approximately $15 for 10+10 at www.vspacestudio.com. Top photo © istock