Lack of arousal.
“For a young woman,” says Dr. Hutcherson, “the number one cause of pain during intercourse is lack of arousal, most often because she’s not getting enough foreplay from her partner.” When you haven’t had enough time to become fully aroused before intercourse, the vagina isn’t lubricated, causing uncomfortable heat and friction as it is penetrated. Treatment is easy and fun: Just tell your partner you need more time and attention lavished on you to get completely in the mood.
Infection.
You could have a yeast or urinary tract infection, both easy to treat and not dangerous if taken care of right away. “A month ago, sex started to be really uncomfortable for me,” says Lesley, 24. “I assumed that the guy I had just started seeing was awful in bed. Luckily, before dumping him for lack of chemistry, I visited my doctor and found out that I had a severe yeast infection with none of the usual [white, clumpy] discharge signs.” A doctor will prescribe an over-the-counter or prescription treatment and, if you’re anything like Lesley, the sex after the infection clears should be back to “amazing.”
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I like that this article touches on issues of women's sexual needs. There can be millions of reasons why women don't get enough foreplay from their partners. One reason could be that male-female sexual relations are often informed by a historically mysogonyst way of thinking that believs that men are the active participants of sex while women remain the passive. That is one way that might cause a man to overlook a women's sexual needs, and soley satisfying his own. It is the same thinking that has told women that they don't have the right to ask this from their partners. I think that everyone and their partners (be they long term or one night things) have a responsibility to each other: to help eachother know your needs, to be respectful of those needs, and for both parties to be in a constant communication about what makes them feel good/feel happy/feel respected. Thank you for pointing this out, Shauna Billings (author of article). I do take issue with this article. It's heteronormative, meaning that your article assumes that all women having sex are having that sex with men. The whole article suggests this, but espescially that repugnant choice of words, that "the vagina isn’t lubricated, causing uncomfortable heat and friction as it is penetrated." Why does sex necessarily involve penetration? And why that word penetration? Please focus on more inclusive, less violent langauge and move toward language that places both partners on equal footing. |
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