SM: What can we do when we’re being patronized?
Stefani Schaeffer: That will happen in business, especially if you’re a young female professional, but I would say always take the high road. Don’t sink to the level of condescension or being sarcastic. No one can ever fault you for being too professional. People don’t usually remember what you say to them, but they will definitely remember how you make them feel.
SM: Many female leaders get a reputation of being power-hungry or a bitch. How can we overcome that image?
Stefani Schaeffer: People make a quick judgment call about how they think you are personality-wise and you have no control over that. But what you do have control over is [knowing] that being professional doesn’t mean you have a chip on your shoulder. There’s no excuse for being less than professional, there’s no excuse for being nasty to people. “Oh, she’s the b-word or she’s snobby;” people might think that, and you can’t control that, but you can smile, you can be friendly and you can go about your business. And don’t worry about the people who are going to think ill thoughts.
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| fiona | |
| I have to admit I've never actually watched The Apprentice but I found that Stefani gave some sound advice. From her answers, she seems like a confident, determined, and hardworking woman who deserved to win The Apprentice. GO Stefani! | |
| MorganC | |
| I agree with bruinla. Women sometimes think that because they are taking on a leadership role, they have to act tough and mean. This doesn't have to be the case. Having power does not mean you have to be a dictator...I think respectful, hardworking people make it farther... | |
| LILA -- Los Angeles | |
| Stefani, thank you so much for sharing such great advice. You seem like you really have it together and each day I strive to do that myself. I must admit, it can be quite hard to bring enthusiasm to work on a daily basis, but, just like you, I've seen that enthusiasm seems to be a quality that a lot of successful leaders seem to share. I wonder,however, do you ever get burnt out and how do you deal with that? | |
| asya | |
| i can't say i'm a big fan of the donald himself, but i did love the interview with stefani. she's unpretentious and really gives women the inspiration to pursue their goals. i like her advice on taking pride in what you do. sometimes it's hard being proud of a humanities major when everyone around is doing either bio or engineering. her words are very comforting. | |
| bruinla | |
| Stefani's advice is really great! I think one of the most important things for women in high positions is to not be seen as a bi****. If you give off that energy, people will be less willing to work with you. | |