Beyond overtime and the need to be available for planning special functions outside of work, a double-standard exists for single employees.
“I have a team of about five people who work under me,” explains 36-year-old Marni Wedin, a producer with CityTV in Vancouver and a voluntarily single person. Wedin says she doesn’t ask people to work overtime because she knows they’re single, but when situations arise where she does ask for overtime help from an unentangled staffer and they turn her down, it can make her blood boil. “If I ask a single person with no kids to do overtime and they say no or that they can’t, I’m fine with that…but deep down inside, I’m seething. I don’t mean to do it, but I do,” Wedin says.
Another problem that plagues single workers occurs during office parties and events. Since you’re unmarried, many offices will assume that you’ll be coming to these fetes alone. But that doesn’t mean you have to put up with it.
“I had a situation once with a Christmas party where everyone was invited to bring a ‘significant other.’ The assumption was that I wouldn’t bring someone, so it wasn’t included in the final head count,” Gugeler says.
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| uwishtoo | |
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Fiona: The fact that going home to a family may be like another full time job is our problem HOW ? They chose to have those kids and it ISNT understandable at all that they feel entitled to anything other than a paycheck for 40 hours of work |
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| uwishtoo | |
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asya: Are you KIDDING ME ??? Just because you were an egg donor doesnt mean jack to me sorry. WHat about a single professional woman that helps care for her parents and grown kids ? I never asked for, or got, any special treatment, but if I wanted to work OT it was because I wanted to and not because I was told to and if I couldnt when asked then oh well, I couldnt, flat out simple. There is nothing "natural" about distinguishing between a single woman with no small children and one with them, sorry. But I also wonder how far up the ladder you expect to get with that attitude? not too far if you were working for me, I would prefer to promote a single women with no kids that didnt ask for special treatment then some spoiled mother who felt like she was entitled to something. i bet you are also the first one that screams discrimination after working for years at 40 or less hours a week due to little Johnny or Janey coming first when a woman with no kids gets promoted huh ? Attitudes like yours are disgusting and degrading |
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| fiona | |
| I was an admin assistant at a real estate office and I felt that they loaded all the work on me since I was the youngest and not married, and apparently having to study after work wasn't a good enough excuse to get out of it. I thought it was unfair at the time, but now I think it's understandable. Going home to your family is like going to a whole other job right after your real one. | |
| resurrection12 | |
| I'm a single mom with 2 kids and I never got "special treatment." The only reason I had to work harder as a single gal was because I had an entry-level position and had to move my way up. Now, I'm in management and I carry most of the company's load, regardless of my family situation. | |
| asya | |
| I think it's natural to ask the single person to devote to projects that would be more difficult for someone with a family. Having kids changes everything and it's completely fair to give special treatment to those women with children in terms of a couple of projects like that. | |
| summer | |
| it's definitely unfair of bosses to assume that just because an employee is single, she want to devote her whole life to the job. i'm not sure how she should approach her boss, though, to tell her tactfully that she has a life too. what does anyone else think? | |