How to deal: Always be prepared for round-buying before committing to a night on the town. Students and other strapped-for-cash groups tend to agree to buy their own drinks, but as a member of the professional world, you can expect someone to initiate the ritual of round-buying. Keep in mind that while people may seem like they’re not paying attention, they’re really keeping tabs on who’s picking up the rounds, so you definitely don’t want to be a round-dodger.
Dr. Frankel says: “About the only way to make sure it doesn't happen ahead of time is to clarify it's a ‘Dutch treat’ evening. But even then, after a few drinks, someone will often become magnanimous and buy a round. The way to handle this is to say, ‘Thank you so much for your generosity. I wish I could repay it, but right now that's impossible.’ Just be direct and honest.”
Remember, you’re supposed to have fun with your friends—that’s why you made them in the first place. So don’t stress when the birthday e-vites roll around, just follow our advice and kiss those awkward money situations goodbye.
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| crashing_nightingale | |
| This article is so funny because I thought I was the only one that felt this way. Thank you Savvy miss! :-) I have a friend who LOVES going to expensive restaurants and all the so-called "hot" hollywood hotspots. She has mom's credit card to use; I, on the other hand, have to work 50/hrs a week and pay off student loans. She likes to order LOTS of food, so when we go out to dinner, I would always give in whenever she wanted an appetizer, cocktails, and dessert so it wouldn't look like i was being cheap. I finally told her I think it's ridiculous whenever she orders food/drinks she doesn't even eat and I feel pressured to pay for half of it, and I am being more aggressive in saying "no." now, thankfully. | |
| coquis81 | |
| I have a friend who would never bring cash with her because she "did't have a job", so everyone was always picking her part of the tab. Some of us finally got fed up and decided that the easist thing to do would just be to say no. It was actually hard, but you can't let friends just weasel you out of your hard earned cash! It's different when a friend who doesn't have a job because she's trying and can't get one, compared to someone you know that is just sitting at home watching soaps. | |
| MorganC | |
| This just happened to me the other day. I was at a celebration dinner for my friend and and four of us decided to split this REALLY expensive pitcher of Pimms. I know I couldn't afford it, but I gave in. Then, when we went to divide up the cost, and I realized that the friend of honor wasn't going to be paying because this was her night. Then one of the other girls decided--I only had a sip so I don't think I should pay. I ended up spending like 30 bucks for this stupid drink. And it's not like everyone signed a contract you can hold them to. | |