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| jolmbagpuss | |
| Thank you for sharing that website alyssa, what an amazing story. That is exactly what my boyfriend is like, exactly the same, every point is something that he does. Is there anyway of changing them, I guess not, I guess they will be like that until they find the perfect girl to settle down with. | |
| Artsycat43 | |
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I just broke-up with an ex-con. When I look back at the relationship I ask myself "What was I thinking?" I dated him for four months. He had been in and out of prison for most of his life, lived with his mother (claiming he was living there to assist her), had a horrible history of assault/battery which he did not tell me until later after he grabbed me and pushed me on my sofa. In addition I had to call the cops on him twice for threatening me and going into jealous rages over imaginary things. He kept claiming he loved me so much and we were meant to be together. I was beginning to care for him and in the beginning we had a great time. The sex was totally great and passionate, which also made it difficult to leave! I hate to admit that. He also was extremely narcissistic, always late, talking about how women were always after him in the streets etc. He never worked more than two days a week at odd jobs. I assume because of his record that he couln't be hired. He was also on probation for dealing drugs (so he claims, I think it was also assault against women). All of this and he was 54 years old! It took me about five times to really leave him, because I cared for him when he was not raging. I also wanted so hard to believe he would change and get help. He kept saying he was sorry and would get therapy. He stayed with me for two months almost everyday and kept saying he would help me pay for the bills, this never happened. He would always start and argument and say that is why he did not give me the money. He is a total nutcase and I would recommend never dating a guy in or out of prison. Anyone who can commit a crime that ends them up in prison is not an overall good person or a good bet for a lasting relationship. I am slowly recovering, but I am still scared of him, because of his history of battering women and assaulting men. |
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| Lola -- Boston | |
| I love the tongue-in-cheek tone of this article. It's so strange how some women actually do date men who are in jail at that point in time. I think I'll stick to meeting guys who've never committed a felony. | |
| Olivia -- Tuscon | |
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| LILA -- Los Angeles | |
| I agree with what was said about women trying to change men and being co-dependent. Many prisoners are incarcerated as a result of actions attributed to serious emotional issues and dire circumstances. I would not advise "free" women to PURSUE intimate relationships with men in prison, especially when they are not in a relationships with them before they are locked up because you will inevitably inherit all the baggage that comes with an incarcerated individual--co-dependency is something that entraps (or imprisons, if you will) many women and this is a sure-fire way to stay locked in that mode. | |
| alyssa | |
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I have to say that men who are or were in jail for whatever reason are usually Sociopaths with NO CONSCIENCE! 1 out of 25 people are, and I was recently engaged to a hot, super sweet, sensitive guy who even liked to watch TOP MODEL with me but was in jail before, and I accepted it - BIG MISTAKE!!! BECAUSE of the time he wasted in jail, I found out he was looking online for discreet sexual encounters behind my back and surely cheating on me! I had no idea, he would come home, spoil me, travel with me and tell me how he wants me to have his kids being the good girl I am - but being the sociopath he is, and doing that behind my back, then kicking me out by throwing all my stuff outside, and not feeling bad about it, I have to advise NOT TO date jailbirds! He ruined my hopes and dreams temporarily because I gave up so much to be with him and now I have to start over living at home and I am a college educated, sweet, good looking girl! He fooled me because they learn a lot in the slammer from other convicts and will fool you too. I don't care if Gabrielle from Desperate Housewives did it, they are BAD NEWS and in jail for a reason, because they have VERY SERIOUS mental issues that you do not have any idea about until your life is ruined and you sit there wondering what on earth just happened? Whether the crime was white or blue collar, it doesn't matter, sociopaths are everywhere, check out this website called www.takebackyourheart.com and you will see and understand why good girls date bad boys and they ruin them. Be strong ladies and set your standards higher no matter how cute they may be, they lie! There are plenty of good boys with a wild side - go for them, at least they won't cheat on you and then throw all your stuff out after they say they want to marry you! Most girls who date the bad boys are codependent in a lot of ways, but let me tell you - MEN DO NOT CHANGE! YOU CAN NOT MAKE THEM, as soon as you learn that the sooner you will be truly happy with yourself and your partner. Seriously...go to www.takebackyourheart.com it made sense of it all for me, and tells exactly the way a sociopath acts and how he fools girls no matter how smart and savvy they think they are. So be a savvy miss and STAY AWAY from jailbirds, and visit the website so you know what to look for! ~Alyssa |
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