Yes, we all know that women are going to college and succeeding in the work force more than ever before, but when the US census revealed that 51% of women over the age of 15 are unmarried (compared to only 35% in the '50s) we couldn't help but wonder if the two were connected. Maybe it’s our successful careers and financial independence or maybe it’s because we’ve realized there’s no reason to rush into settling down—we can be as picky as we want. So what’s a selective girl to do when she feels like no man lives up to her standards? Savvy Miss turned to sex & relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Ian Kerner, Ph.D., for his expert opinion.

Dear Ian,
There is always something wrong with every guy I meet—they’re either too bossy, too sloppy, or too cheap. I could go on and on. I feel like there are no good men left. What do I have to do to find a guy that’s right for me?

First off, allow me to commend you on your high standards and refusal to settle for less than you deserve. A good man is hard to find and I’m not talking about quantity (the truth is that about 105 boys are born for every 100 girls). I’m talking about quality. What was considered “good enough” for your mom or grandmother just doesn’t cut it anymore (sorry, grandpa). Today’s women are smarter, better educated and more successful than ever before. And it’s because of this independence that women have choices. And more and more women are choosing to stay single rather than settle for second best. The problem with finding a good man is that you’ve gotten way too good for us. Think about it: You women had the Sexual Revolution to motivate you, but what have us guys been doing for the last thirty years? Can you say “ESPN”? That’s right, while you’ve been out bringing home the bacon and frying it up in a pan, we’ve been sitting on our asses watching sports and drinking Bud Light.