If your newfound love has asked you to attend church, temple or other place of worship unfamiliar to you, you probably have lots of questions: “What do I wear? Will it be obvious I’m an outsider? Will I have to stand up and identify myself as a visitor?” But most of all you’re probably wondering, “What does this say about our relationship?” This is definitely more complicated than when you had to pick out your third-date restaurant.

There’s no doubt about it, the interfaith date is a big step. And it either means that he’s serious about you or serious about his religion. Or both.

Take a Step Back.
This is a great time to evaluate how much you like this guy. If you say “yes” to accompany him to his place of worship, you’re also saying “yes” to him—which could mean exclusivity or even a serious commitment. If that’s what you have on your mind, great. If not, you may need to speak now or forever hold your peace.

Something else to consider are your own feelings towards religion. Dr. Gilda Carle, author of Don't Bet on the Prince says, “This guy’s presence in your life could be a terrific catalyst for you to jump-start a deeper and more grateful mindset for all the things you have going for you. Remember that relationships are not as much about the other person as they are about your own growth.” So even if you don’t decide to convert, it could still be a good learning experience.