Why Men Lie
Why Men Lie: He doesn’t want to complicate things.
Dan, 38, was in the process of ending his three-year relationship with Jennifer when he went to a party and hit it off with Lindsay. They began to date casually while Dan finished things up with Jennifer. (Not that Lindsay needed to know this because clearly, it was over.)
Jennifer and Dan developed a platonic friendship and one night he opted to take her to a hockey game instead of Lindsay. When he got home, Lindsay asked who he had gone with, and Dan simply said he was there with a few friends. He wasn’t hooking up with his ex and felt that mentioning Jennifer would open up a huge can of worms that he’d rather leave closed.
“Basically, it’s a pain in the ass to tell the whole truth. So sometimes we just leave details out because it gets too complicated,” says Dan. “If the missing info isn’t going to hurt anyone, what’s the harm in not mentioning it?”
Why Men Lie: He’s trying to put his best foot forward.
Marshall, 24, was working as an assistant at a small production office when the company went bankrupt and he was forced to go on unemployment. He started searching for something new, but he wasn’t having much luck.
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I never will understand who women "go ballistic" on the other women when they didnt know a thing about the original girlfriend in the first place AND they usually end up keeping the jerk anyway.
But I was always amused at the fact that my now ex (thank GOD) fiance - always lied to me about going to strip clubs or out drinking with his buddies - I didnt care - if he wanted to go for some harmless fun in a club then go for it - but call and let me know you are going to be late and I will be fine. What he didnt know was that one of his best friends who also happened to be a very close friend of mine from 20 years before in high school would call me on such nites to let me know that my fiance was with the guys and he was fine and would be late - so I still knew what he was doing and he was safe and not out running around. I finally got tired of taking the heat for things that his ex wife got ticked off at him about and ended things. He is now with a woman that screams at him if he goes to the bathroom in their house without telling her where he is going. Karma baby ! Gotta love it
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Leaving out info such as who you really hung out with will definitely hurt your partner in the long run. I say just be honest about who you were with, even if it was someone your gf would feel insecure about, such as an ex-girlfriend. Telling her the truth will build her trust, whereas lying (if she ever finds out about it) will make her wonder the worst.
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Definitely find out the truth before you do anything else with him ladies! I knew this guy for about a year and in a very spontaneous, bad move, I had a "one night stand" with him. Turns out he was still with his girlfriend, who went ballistic on me. I should've asked the hard-hitting questions so the whole situation would be avoided- I speak from experience.
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