Remember, you’re in control.
You are the master of your domain. If you don’t want sex on a first date to happen, it won’t. “The woman has the upper hand,” says Kevin, 28. “The guy has got to work for it.” So, remain in control. Wear something sexy, but not slutty. Don’t get too physical. And maybe cancel that make-out session in favor of a peck and a hug.

Save that fun stuff for the next date.

John Crawford is a freelance writer, and a friend to all women, living in Philadelphia.

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