JM: If you’re dating the same person over and over then that’s a pattern in you, it’s not a pattern in them. So what you want to do is look at what is similar in all these guys and go, “Hmm, clearly that’s my problem.”

SM: What day-to-day activities can we do to meet new, quality people?
MK: The best way to seriously break out of a rut is to change the energy around you. It may sound new age-y, but the energy around you really influences the way you feel and the way people act around you. Some ways to change the energy around you is to exercise (if you don't already). Do something different. If you normally bike or run, go on a hike in the mountains or go swim in a pool. Acupuncture is also an easy way to change your energy. Try committing to acupuncture twice a week for a month and see how that changes your "rut."

SM: What if we start getting down on ourselves for dating these problem guys and for being in a dating rut?
MK: Girls that find themselves in a dating rut [can] look at themselves and be in acceptance of where they are. A lot of times just looking at the reality and not always saying, “What’s wrong with me?” but rather saying, “I’m in this phase right now and this is where I’m at,” [is enough]. Trust your process and that it’s all going to work out.