SM: What about the idea: We attract what we are?
MK: It’s like the axiom: Water seeks its own level. You’re not going to feel comfortable dating someone who’s really positive and in love with life if you are little miss negative because you’re just gonna want to roll your eyes at him.

SM: What about girls who want a relationship but keep attracting guys that don’t want one?
JM: I, in the past, have attracted non-committal boyfriends and I thought, “What’s the deal with that?” But when I really looked at it, I was attracted to the fact that they were non-committal because I was non-committal and they were perfect for me at the time. So all these girls who say, “I can’t believe he doesn’t want to commit,” think about your life and consider for a moment that, just maybe, you might not be ready for a commitment either.

SM: Any advice for those of us out there who are stuck in a dating rut?
MK: Love yourself; be good to yourself. Treat yourself as you would if you had a daughter. And be open to loving [a] person exactly how they are because you cannot change a person. A person can decide to change, but you cannot change a person. So don’t go in hoping to change anything.

JM: Don’t live in the meantime. We sometimes think, “Oh, I’m not going to have the apartment of my dreams because I’m going to wait for him to come along and we’ll do that together.” But if you just say, “No. I’m going to create the life I want and he’ll eventually come,” then you’re going to have a fabulous life as opposed to waiting for that life to happen.

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