JM: And some of these guys you date are lessons to be learned. They’re very valuable in your life and you want to have gratitude for that as opposed to feeling like a failure.

SM: How can you break your bad patterns and get out of a dating rut? Is being aware of it enough?
MK: Really be clear on what it is you’re looking for. Write it down and make a list of what you want and start asking the universe for it.

You need to believe you deserve exactly what you want. If you think men are slime balls you will meet slime balls. But if you start believing you can meet a great person, just like the one you want, you can attract that.

SM: What can we do if we’re on a date with someone and realize that we’re falling into our patterns?
JM: Stop. It may sound simple, but it is easier said than done. We perpetuate our patterns because they serve to keep us comfortable. Change isn't easy or people would change more often. Give yourself permission to be uncomfortable and sit with it. Realizing that you are in the midst of a pattern is great awareness and awareness is the first step in change. This is a great opportunity to ask yourself what it is about the situation you are in that is triggering your pattern. Use this as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and why you do the things you do.