“They probably won’t call,” said Kevin, 28. “You can count them out completely.”

While it would be easier for you if they wore nametags or a belt made of condoms, it’s not always easy to detect a player on the first date – it may take a few more. I know a friend of a friend, who shall remain nameless, who decided to go on a sexual binge after getting a divorce. He hit the Internet dating scene hard and over the course of a year, he slept with more than 20 women, and practically all of his conquests slept with him on the first or second date. So unless you’re cool with sleeping with a man once and never hearing from him again, you may want to hold off and make sure you’re not hopping into bed with a player.

The bottom line is that while jumping in the sack on a first date carries some risk, a relationship – even love – can still develop from it. So if the dude is really hot, and you’re figuring what the hell, I say go ahead and do it. You only live once.

But let me leave you with a little public service announcement, ladies. When we talk about first-date sex risks, you can’t forget about all those nasty diseases you first learned about back in high school health class. So no matter how drunk both of you are, no matter how reckless you feel, make sure he wears a condom. After all, you barely know this guy, and you can’t count on him to do the right thing. Right before sex, he’s a dog in heat. He’s lucky if he can remember his name, much less focus on condoms.

John Crawford is a freelance writer and a friend to all women, living in Philadelphia.