You’re afraid no one else will come along.
This is probably the most dangerous breakup belief because it sells you completely short! If you feel this way, your persona is the Pessimist. Pessimists tend to settle for less than they deserve because they haven’t fully discovered their own magnificence. They gravitate toward relationships with people they think can help them or make them happy. But the only person who can ultimately make you happy is—you guessed it—you! If you’re a Pessimist, the best thing you can do post–Big Breakup is take some much-needed time for self-nurturing; focus on fixing the cracks in your self-esteem and learn to love yourself as you are. (And stay very far away from your ex!)

Your biological clock is tick, tick, ticking.
Afraid to let go of your ex because your biological clock is ticking away like a time bomb? If you think time is running out on your chance to get married or have a baby, then your breakup persona is Chicken Little. The good news is that just like Chicken Little, not only is the sky not falling, but you are not running out of time. The thing is: If you want to get married, all you have to do is go out there and find some guy who’s looking to get married, too. There’s no guarantee you’ll be happy, but you will be married. Instead, why not set your sights on a more satisfying goal, like creating a happy life for your single self? In the meantime, a word of caution: Ex-boyfriends love to prey on Chicken Little’s paranoia. Don’t give in.