But, ladies, can we admit that this sort of invitation could confuse a guy?

Amy, 25, seconds that: “If I were in that guy’s shoes and a girl said that, I would definitely think something was gonna happen!”

What We Maybe Should Say:
So since it seems that “come in for a drink” could be misinterpreted as code for sex, what’s the code for really just having a drink?

Sharad says an honest approach would be best: “If she doesn't want sex, then she should add on, ‘I mean, just talk and stuff, not fool around.’”

Nakamoto suggests that limiting the time and defining the context should get our message across: “Would you like to come in for half an hour and have some coffee?” Or, “How about coming inside out of the cold and chatting for a half hour?”

But even knowing what we should or should not say to make our intentions clear, it is perhaps best at the end of the date to stick to a different set of six words: “I had a good time. Thanks.”

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