SM: Seriously?
Evan: Ask yourself the value. That’s the thing with honesty. It’s great. It’s hard to be against honesty. But there are times when not saying everything that you’ve experienced, everything that you think, is a good thing. It’s understanding the cost/benefit amounts of “What do I gain from divulging this information?”

So if we’ve broken up and now we’re getting back together, what do you get from knowing that I dated this other girl, and I kind of really liked her a lot, and she was different than you in this way, and she was worse than you in this way but there were other ways in which she was easier. How does this benefit you? It doesn’t benefit you at all. I’d just as soon say—that was the past, glad to be back with you now, how do we move forward?

SM: Well, how do you know if something is a breakup?
Evan: Well, before the end of the conversation, I’ll say, “All right, are we taking a break. Does that mean we’re seeing other people or just not seeing each other right now? What does this mean? Because I don’t want to cheat on you. But let’s get our definitions straight.” So you define the terms of what the break is.