Why Men Secretly Like Dating Games
4. If you’re not naughty by nature, blurt out some profanity or outrageous comment. Don’t go overboard. Just make it noticeably racier than usual.
5. Ask him on a date. If he says no, shrug it off and don’t return his calls for a few days.
Overall, you don’t want to let your man/victim be able to sense any patterns about you, because if he does, he’ll quickly settle in around those patterns—and then lose interest.
Creating Rules for Breaking
If you exercise hypocrisy in the right way, it will get your man on the warpath, where he is actively seeking to understand how you can get away with something. You provoke this by creating rules that are ok for women to break, but not guys.
• Say you don’t really like kissing in public, then plant one on him. Tell him you couldn’t help yourself.
• Have him help you lift something in your home because you can’t lift it. Then bring up how strong you feel from going to the gym.
Employing hypocrisy as one of your subtler strategies can throw off his game plan. It works because in romance, it’s ok not to play fair sometimes. (Men don’t always play fair, why should you?)
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The worst game is the available / unavailable one. You like me, until I like you back, then you're done! There is a guy in my life who has been so persistent with me for two months, now that I'm showing mutual interest IE) initiating calls / dates - he's become distant.
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i know that the reality is that most guys play a lot of BS games, but it's really quite sad that at least to some, the ***goal*** is to play games from the beginning...and then catalog them as such so that women have the "inside scoop". all these tips really seem to do is set you up to lure the guy in, and then once you think you have him and drop the games, you lose him 'cause he loses interest afterall. by the logic employed on this premise, you're either prolonging the inevitable OR committing yourself of a life of perpetual game-playing. i don't doubt that guys like some/all of the things listed here, but to make them objectives for women to strive for in an effort to "keep their man", well, that's sort of pathetic. i'd be so disappointed if i found myself in a situation that required this sort of high maintenance BS. i guess i should feel lucky that i'm not.
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I am not in the dating scene but I wish I would have read this article before I moved in with my boyfriend. I have found myself wanting to play games with him even though were not dating. Yes I hooked him using some of the tips you suggested and also some of my own tips. Now that we live together I feel like I'm being taken for granted. So I keep threatning to move out. You know how the article talks about changing your look so he doesn't know what to expect, the other night I was obsessing in my mind once again about how much everything has changed and I put on my little thigh high garder belt and through a big puffy robe over it.I was going to suprise him, but we ended up getting in a fight before I could even show him what was underneath my robe. He just doesn't look at me the way he used to. I don't know what to do. I don't think a game is going to help. Does anyone have any advise. Please don't make fun of me.
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I don't know the best place to meet a man. . .but I have heard a few suggestions. The Gym, grocery stores. My heart felt advice to you Samantha 22 is to not look for a man. Try to focus on yourself, my experience has always been when I'm not looking they appear.
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I'm so sick and tired of Men playing games with me. I have always been a strong beleiver in Karma. I usually don't mess with mens heart strings, I just feel broken right now. I've be living in Los Angeles for six months now, dating is so hard here. The only place I have met men I would want to date has been in clubs. Most of the men have been players. I'm thinkin were having a great time and then as soon as I kiss them good bye, or I never hear from them again. I don't really want to play games back but I guess its time. I will try the advise you have to give. Does anyone know the best place to meet a good man in LA.
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