Is He Wasting My Time?
When I first met my boyfriend, he said that when he turned thirty he wanted to move back to Spain (where he’s originally from). At the time, I wasn’t expecting to still be with him a year later. But I am, and we’re in love. He never mentions to me his plans to move back to Spain, but I occasionally hear him talking to his family and friends about it. Even though he was upfront about this plan when we started dating, I figured that plans change and that, if we fell in love, maybe he would change his mind. He’s turning 29 this year, which gives him a year until his Spain deadline. I’m not sure if I should bring it up and press him about our future, or let it go and “cross that bridge” when we come to it? And how long should someone wait until she decides if she’s just wasting her time and should move on with her life?
By Aura Mae, author of Get Some Hairapy: A hairdresser's prescription for happiness
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I thought this was great because you can take away a little bit of advice from each person. But, I especially agree with Dr. Schwartz: if the relationship is serious, an important question like this should be addressed without beating around the bush. Though, like Giuliana says, it's not okay to bring it up at inappropriate times...like while he's changing the oil in the car.
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