Who was it that said it's not cheating until you get caught? Well, it wasn't you, because you seem to feel pretty guilty about your lapse of fidelity way back when. But were you maybe the one who said that liars ask for honesty while the rest of us ask for seconds?

 

You know, revealing this secret to him is not about getting it off your chest—it's about coming clean and revealing yourself in a deep and trusting way. If you decide to keep this secret, you're restricting his access to your whole heart. Some people don't need to give all of their love away to find happiness, but I'm guessing you wouldn't be feeling guilty if you were one of those people. Personally, when I'm fully honest with someone, I'm never afraid of telling them the truth, no matter how awful it is. That's a very liberating feeling, but it only comes when you make that commitment to honesty.

But honesty can be scary and you're afraid of losing him if you tell him, which is totally understandable. However, if he's really the man who will be with you forever, your silly affair won't stop him from loving you. It might make your love fragile for a bit, but people who care about each other work through these difficulties. And if he bolts, you can always hook up with the other guy! Hey, a contingency plan never hurt anyone.