Hmm, you have totally described a difficult moral conundrum. To be totally and completely forthright with your fiancé about your dalliance or to keep your mouth shut? There is much at risk and much to lose. Your fiancé could either be so furious with you that he no longer wishes to be your fiancé or he could be sad and sorrowful about your having cheated on him but ultimately forgiving because you came forward and told him the truth. My personal feeling about this comes down to one axiom I’ve held near and dear to my heart for many decades. That is, “Don’t kill the messenger.” The problem is that unless your fiancé is a total saint, he’ll probably want to kill you for giving him this particular message.

 

One of the words the priest and the marriage counselor have used is “honor.” I think it’s more honorable, in this case, to say nothing about your less-than-discretionary past. If you truly love this man and want to be his life partner, you will never cheat on him again. But just in case, avoid going out alone or with girlfriends and getting wasted on alcohol: You’ll want to cut down on the rare chance that lightning might strike twice!