Toughie! Girl, you’re going to have to suck it up and tell him what you did. Get ready for the fireworks, but there is no other option. You are about to take the big leap with the man you love. You say you love him? Then you have to love him enough to be honest with him. He deserves to know what you did. It isn’t selfish of you to tell him, but it is selfish to withhold the information. He doesn’t benefit from your deceit, you do. You are the one who will walk down the aisle with the man you love and he’ll never know. It is hard to ‘fess up about something that could destroy everything, but you really don’t want to live with this lie. It will haunt you. Be honest and then give him a chance to digest it and make a decision on what he wants to do. Put the ball in his court.

Solie is currently partying her life away after more than 12 years of serial monogamy. She works as a fundraiser and event planner in Boston.