As far as telling him, that sort of honesty is, in fact, about relieving your own guilt. It is important to be honest in a relationship, but maybe sometimes it is more important to be kind. Your choice to cheat was about you, not about your boyfriend. I know people who have been cheated on and people who have cheated. The people who have been cheated on always wish they would have never known. If you engage in a severe session of soul searching and find that you really do love this man and that cheating was just a mistake, then go ahead with the wedding—but keep your secret to yourself. You did it, you live with it.

Shannon, 26, currently resides in San Francisco. Her first date horror story collection continues to grow with almost every man she goes out with. Fearing that the horrors may never end, she recently subscribed to Netflix for weekend company.