For me, it’s all about being true to yourself. People should respect that if you’re making decisions that are in your best interest. I got out of a relationship to pursue my dream and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. It wasn’t working—she was contradictory. She said she was supportive, but when I played at shows, there would be drama.
You have to have a good, open level of communication to strike a balance between your relationship and career. With a relationship there’s compromise and with a career there’s compromise. To find the balance really depends on the other person involved. You don’t have to choose if that person is supportive enough and respects your decision. It’s tough to balance a relationship and a career, but if the other person can’t help you balance them then that person wasn’t right for you in the first place. Even if it wasn’t your career and just something else for you, and the guy wasn’t cool with it, you’re probably not in the right relationship.
Good luck to you.
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| LILA -- Los Angeles | |
| lily, i couldn't agree more. what we also have to pay attention to is when the other person's pursuit is considered "bigger." that automatically undermines what his/her partner brings to the table and makes it easy for resentment to set in. | |
| lily -- Los Angeles | |
| I agree that their needs to be compromise, but I think all too many times it's the one without the "pursuit" of the dream that always has to compromise. I say...realize that you are going to have to miss a show for your girlfriend/boyfriend's dinner party. And you're girlfriend/boyfriend will have to miss a dinner party for your show. Sometimes the person doing the "big stuff" never compromises, and I think that's sad. | |