Oh … very sad. There is a way to balance, but it has to come from both of you. If he’s complaining that he’s not seeing you as much, he needs to have an open heart and realize you want to make singing a career, not just a passion. You need to sit down and talk with him if you’re serious about him, and tell him that this is something that might be your future together that he needs to deal with. If you make it, you’re going to have to tour and be away from him, for instance.

I’ve been trying out for American Idol for two years. I’ve been going back and forth between Chicago and Hollywood, and I’ve seen my boyfriend for maybe a total of eight months in two years. He just came out here for a little two-day visit—any time I can get a little time in with him, I take it. You can make an online date, do something! It’s about letting him know that he’s still important to you, it’s not just your music. I’m very fortunate because my boyfriend’s a musician at night and knows kind of what I’m going through. It’s still HARD, but when you know he’s the right guy and he’ll be there beside you … that’s priority. He can’t be jealous of your career. He has to be willing to help you with it in any way he can. So there’s a way you don’t have to choose between your relationship and your career, but he has to be there for you. It’s more his problem than yours.