I definitely think that it is important for you to encourage your girlfriend and not belittle her because of her weight gain. And by encouragement, I mean make a date out of going to the gym. If she used to be really into working out, help her to arouse that fire inside of her again. You never know what kind of effect releasing some pheromones together could have on your sex life. Joining a gym with a sauna or a hot tub never hurts either … a little post-workout heat can be just what the doctor ordered and instead of you arousing her, you could be arousing each other!
The two of you should also set up some sort of incentive/reward between the two of you where after one month, whoever has lost the most weight (hopefully it's her for your sake) must be pampered, showered, wined, dined and spoiled! Take her on a shopping spree! If you're ballin’ on a budget take her to forever21; if you're not, hit up Neiman Marcus. That way she can actually see her progress by the way clothes fit. Then, after hitting the store, wind down with some strawberries (gotta keep it healthy), whipped cream (low-carb) and red wine (it's low-carb too). This way after one month, your girl will be tighter and hotter and so will a few other things.
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| Lavanda | |
| I agree with leisle. What men do not realize though is that it is not just a double standard - it's the problem that is created by that double standard: women usually do not want to look good for a man who looks sloppy or chubby. And, usually they will excercise to keep up with her men's fit body - they won't want to look worse than you. | |
| leisle -- Westwood | |
| Whitney-- You are definitely my favorite from Cycle 8! Great advice about the positive reinforcement. I feel like many men expect their girlfriend to look great, while they can pork up all they want. It's a double standard, and I think it's fantastic that you encourage both parties to participate in the exercise. Thanks Whitney! | |