It all comes down to something that rhymes with thing.

Cling!

Has he ever exhibited any kind of cling? Ever noticed any kind of reluctance in him to leave after the deed, or even a hint of jealousy if your weekend plans might introduce another male into the picture? It doesn’t mean that you are assured of girlfriend potential in his eyes, but it lets you know that he has more than one thing on his mind. Of course he might just be possessive of his never fail avenue to a few hours of fun, but then again he might have taken an interest in something beyond your bodily enchantments.

From that stage you have two options. No sudden movements, or take no prisoners. In no sudden movements your challenge is to slowly unravel his behaviour to see if he’s just trying to guard his “property”, or if he’s genuinely interested in you. I understand the lure of emotion and romance, but just remember how you two started out! Make sure you use some objectivity, but not too much, analysis paralysis isn’t any good either. In take no prisoners you can be more upfront with him. It won’t take as long to figure out where he stands but be prepared for male dramatics if you’ve misread him.

The key in choosing your approach is your ability to observe his behaviour and how quickly you’d like to resolve the situation. I put the stress on observe. Don’t make the mistake of colouring your observations by projecting your own feelings about being his girlfriend on what you’re seeing. Remember how easy it is to critique your friends’ actions and feel that it is common sense? It is because you have better objectivity.

No cling? You’re just out of luck. In his eyes you’re the girl for fun and nothing more. He may be kind, polite, and possess any other number of positive, boyfriend-like traits, but it just means that he’s a decent guy. If you try to turn it into more he’ll quickly find his way out of your life.