The key in choosing your approach is your ability to observe his behaviour and how quickly you’d like to resolve the situation. I put the stress on observe. Don’t make the mistake of colouring your observations by projecting your own feelings about being his girlfriend on what you’re seeing. Remember how easy it is to critique your friends’ actions and feel that it is common sense? It is because you have better objectivity.

No cling? You’re just out of luck. In his eyes you’re the girl for fun and nothing more. He may be kind, polite, and possess any other number of positive, boyfriend-like traits, but it just means that he’s a decent guy. If you try to turn it into more he’ll quickly find his way out of your life.

A transplanted Canadian, Murray currently lives in Melbourne, Australia, with his wife Andrea. Some of his female friends regard him as a "sensible girlfriend", which is probably the sole reason why he accepted the challenge of writing dating advice in the first place. While not giving away secrets from the enemy camp, Murray keeps himself occupied with a fairly eclectic collection of friends and interests. He'll go now before this starts to sound too much like a personal ad!