Possible? Yes. Likely? No. The reality of this situation is that if this fellow wanted to have dinner with you, he probably would have asked you to grab a bite to eat with him by now. If he wanted to chat, he would have picked up the phone at a normal hour. Instead, he only calls you late night, when there is only one thing to discuss: my place or yours?

Booty calls are not relationship builders. They are lusty flings driven by a mutual attraction, and they typically crop up when someone (either the guy or girl…or both) is in a phase where he or she is looking for a strictly no-obligation situation. In other words, booty calls fill the gap when you don’t want to be in a relationship but don’t want to be a nun or monk either. They are short-lived by nature because it usually isn’t long before somebody either wants more…or moves on.

So let me save you some time and anguish. The truth about being “friends with benefits” is that you are typically just that. Friends. Hoping for a sudden transformation to a romantic dating scenario is generally an exercise in disappointment. Moreover, when people say “we are keeping things undefined,” it might just be because there isn’t much there to define.