Possible? Yes. Likely? No. The reality of this situation is that if this fellow wanted to have dinner with you, he probably would have asked you to grab a bite to eat with him by now. If he wanted to chat, he would have picked up the phone at a normal hour. Instead, he only calls you late night, when there is only one thing to discuss: my place or yours?

Booty calls are not relationship builders. They are lusty flings driven by a mutual attraction, and they typically crop up when someone (either the guy or girl…or both) is in a phase where he or she is looking for a strictly no-obligation situation. In other words, booty calls fill the gap when you don’t want to be in a relationship but don’t want to be a nun or monk either. They are short-lived by nature because it usually isn’t long before somebody either wants more…or moves on.

So let me save you some time and anguish. The truth about being “friends with benefits” is that you are typically just that. Friends. Hoping for a sudden transformation to a romantic dating scenario is generally an exercise in disappointment. Moreover, when people say “we are keeping things undefined,” it might just be because there isn’t much there to define.

Now, maybe I’m being too pessimistic. Maybe this is the one time out of a 100 where I’m wrong, and something could blossom. Maybe this is your soul mate hidden in the body of a horny guy. So just in case, let me say this. If you really, truly feel there’s a special connection with this guy – and I’m talking outside the bedroom, missy – I would advise you to put it out there. Tell him how you feel. Say you want something more. Ask him on a date. Take a chance. As scary as this is, it’s the only way to get what you want.

But if he balks – and chances are he will because he’s an idiot and doesn’t know you’re as fabulous in plain daylight as you are in the midnight hour – you have to be prepared to cut things off. After all, you should never stick around when the guy doesn’t reciprocate your level of feelings. Why? Because there’s someone out there who does.