Can chemistry lead to compatibility?  You’ve proven that the two of you can make sparks fly in the bedroom.  Now you’re hoping you can click out on the streets. Here’s a bit of advice from some one who’s tried…and sometimes misses being bedded on demand.


1.    Great sex is hard to find.  So enjoy it for what it is: the best sex you’re having right now.

2.    Horny habits are hard to break.  Cut off the physical connection and replace it with another interest he’s passionate about. Has your boy toy dropped hints about getting his pilot’s license or looking for a better job? If so, follow his lead.  Here’s your chance to say, “Yes. I’d love to hear that guitar solo you’ve been working on.  Why don’t I make dinner for us while you serenade me?”  Share his passion for something else besides your sex life.

3.    Walk your talk.  OK, get out a sheet of paper.  List any conversations you have had with Mr. Sex-on-tap, no matter how insignificant.  Be honest, his verbal skills may not extend beyond the latest “Jackass” episode or his friends’ bowling antics.  Now sit down to dinner with yourself and imagine he’s there talking to you.  It may take a bit of practice to get through dinner without screaming, “Stop talking! Bed! Now!”

4.    Review the guy’s “Romance Résumé.” Does he have past experience in maintaining solid relationships or is he strictly a one-night-only man?  Your after-dark dater may not qualify for morning mating rituals. Expect to make the first move. Suggest meeting for after dinner drinks or a quick bite at a casual restaurant.  Then make an excuse for why you can’t join him later.  He’s in the habit of committing for a few hours. Use them to explore each other minds rather than your bodies.