Have you tried hypnotherapy? Acupuncture? Taking a long trip to a foreign nation? Therapy? Girl, you’re way overdue for a complete mental makeover! I don’t know enough about your background or early childhood history to say for sure why you’re clinging to your old love for this guy who clearly was far less in love with you. There must be a reason—possibly even one from a past life—why you got involved with this bad news bear in the first place. But at the same time, you should look upon all this as the past—as in something to put behind you.

Your fear is about moving forward. You’re afraid of the unknown. Painful as it may be, it’s easier for you to embrace and keep massaging the old misery than it is to dare to experience what lies ahead. You will love again. And by the way, have you tried calling this guy up? Lots of women who think they’re still hung up on an old boyfriend do just that. And they always find out that the guy is in a new relationship. There’s nothing like knowing for sure that you’ve been totally and completely dumped to make a girl move on.

Eve Marx is a graduate of Columbia University Teacher’s College. She is the author of Read My Hips: The Sexy Art of  Flirtation, What's Your Sexual IQ? and The Goddess Orgasm. She was the editor at Penthouse Forum and Swank Magazine. She has also edited High Society and Celebrity Skin magazines, and was a producer for Penthouse Phone Sex Tapes.