No, your friends do not need to like your boyfriend. We stopped needing the permission of others back in high school. (Didn’t we?) You may want your friends to like your man and vice versa, but the important lesson here is not to let your wants hurt you, or your friends or your potential Mr. Right. Here are a few Dos and Don’ts for keeping it real between friends and lovers.

DO let each person know that your relationship with them is important to you. With your growing emotional connection to your potential future mate, your best friend might feel as if she’s losing you. Likewise, your boyfriend may feel insecure and is just trying to hold on to your heart.

DON’T put up with their inappropriate outbursts. Be the calm in the midst of their emotional storms. Respond to their unflattering comments by saying, “I hear you, but let’s move on to another topic,” or “I know you’re not particularly fond of _____ but we’ve grown close and I’d appreciate it if you’d respect my feelings and not share your negative comments with me. I treasure the time I spend with both of you and I understand that people don’t always get along.”

DO expect them to be jealous of the time you spend with the other. Each is probably used to being the top dog in your life.

DON’T rub their noses in it by bring up your extracurricular activities with their sworn enemy.

DO strengthen your bond with each individual by spending special solo time doing your favorite things. With your best friend, that might mean visiting that hidden mani-pedi place you discovered on your last shopping binge. With your boyfriend, that might mean sneaking off to your favorite restaurant or jazz place for a little eye gazin’… and more.