DO expect them to be jealous of the time you spend with the other. Each is probably used to being the top dog in your life.

DON’T rub their noses in it by bring up your extracurricular activities with their sworn enemy.

DO strengthen your bond with each individual by spending special solo time doing your favorite things. With your best friend, that might mean visiting that hidden mani-pedi place you discovered on your last shopping binge. With your boyfriend, that might mean sneaking off to your favorite restaurant or jazz place for a little eye gazin’… and more.

DON’T assume anything. Focus on having authentic communications with your best friend and your boyfriend. When everyone is honest about their feelings it could head off any misunderstandings. And don’t try to persuade them to like each other. Your priority is your relationship with each of them individually, not playing referee between them. Who knows? Your gracious behavior may inspire them to treat each other with greater respect.

Jerusha Stewart, self-proclaimed “Last Single Girl in the World,” reveals how to have it all without having to tie the knot in her book, The Single Girl's Manifesta: Living in a Stupendously Superior Single State of Mind. She’s fanned the flames of nonconjugal bliss on The Tyra Banks Show, San Francisco's The View From The Bay, Match.com, many morning news shows and national radio from coast to coast.

Learn more about The Singles Declaration of Independence at www.TheLastSingleGirlintheWorld.com.