Well, the most important question is, why did you call him so many times?

Did you have an anxiety response and panic? If you did, you need to find out what triggers that kind of response and make sure you learn how to head it off at the pass. Otherwise, if you do end this relationship, you will have learned nothing from its demise and you could make the same mistake again.

Unfortunately, your boyfriend is right: You do seem to be more dependent than independent—and that can scare some guys. Work on the dependency, your tendency to panic and your inability to stop yourself from doing something you know is bad. Get stable so that a man's withdrawal doesn't drive you to despair.

It’s hard to tell if you can salvage this relationship. He is freaked, and with good reason. The only thing I think you can say, is that you agree: It was going too fast, you want it slower too and you were embarrassed at your own anxiety response—which was atypical for you (and then make sure it IS atypical). Then back off, and see if he will seek you out.

Maybe when he's over feeling mad and cornered, he will come to miss your companionship. But you can't make that happen—only he can! So back off, get busy correcting your problems and see if he will eventually come to you. Good luck!

Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., is a professor of sociology at the University of Washington and author or co-author of many books, including: Finding Your Perfect Match, Everything You Know About Love and Sex Is Wrong and The Great Sex Weekend. She was the "Sex and Health" columnist for Glamour for seven years and has appeared frequently on national programs, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, Dateline and Dr. Phil. She is currently the relationship expert at PerfectMatch.com, and lives in Seattle.