He has herpes—now what?

Thank you for saying the snooping has to stop. This is the 3rd response to this reader's question, and I was wondering to myself, "Hello? Anyone besides me think it's scummy to snoop in someone's house?" I think it's very rude to go through people's things.

I am not, however, defending this guy's actions. Not at all. His withholding of this information is equally vile.

See, when I was in college, I hooked up with this GREAT GUY. *eye roll* This GREAT GUY didn't feel the need to tell me he had it. At all. Ever. No. I found out on my own when I came home for break. Doctors diagnosed HSV-2, and I was beyond mortified: I was crushed. Absolutely humiliated. I'm not a dirty person. I didn't sleep around indiscriminately. I just had the misfortune of meeting one man who did not think it was important enough.

I am very upfront about this. Now, I don't tell every man I meet that I have it, but I DO tell every man I meet, with whom I know I'm likely to get intimate. Sure, loses me some dates, but I'd be willing to bet every single one of those men would say he's grateful to me for being so ethical.

Bottom line? This chick needs to learn to respect others' personal belongings, BUT she also needs to dump this jerk. My guess is he was not going to tell her.

He's a jerk, plain and simple. Move on to better fish!

Cyber_Hippie