Why do guys go all goo-goo when a young hot model-type walks into a room? The answer is simple. Men and women are about different things when it comes to finding and keeping a mate. Men look for youth, physical beauty, and openness to sexual encounters where as women look for stability, earning potential, and honesty, to name a few.

Fantasies are normal; in fact they are downright healthy. One cannot help what one will imagine. However, one can control one’s actions. So, as long as your guy isn’t jumping on the woman he is drooling over, you have nothing to worry about.

Can you trust your man not to act out his fantasies? You tell me. Has he cheated before? Is he a serial cheater? Does he undeniably believe in monogamy? Does he truly love you? Has he given you reason to believe he may stray? No person can be a broad generalization. There are tell-tale signs as to what a person will do. Some people will close their eyes to the truth that lies before them, only later to cry that they were the last to know. Open your eyes and look for the truth in your relationship, there in lies the answer to your question.

Honesty being the best policy is a great philosophy. But every rule has a few loop-holes. So when you ask him if the dress makes you look fat and he says no, welcome the fib. When you tell him that his beer-belly or back hair is sexy, he can do the same. What is important is that the honesty revolves around matters of the heart; the issues that form and maintain the crux of your relationship, the basis for all of your trust. Be open, honest, and communicative, as it aids in the longevity of the relationship.

Keeley

Keeley Smith, a relationship expert and advice columnist, has been dishing the proverbial dirt on dating for five years. Her advice column …ask Keeley! can be read on numerous dating sites, entertainment sites and in a plethora of publications worldwide. Give her column a Google to read previously posted questions and answers. If you need some sage advice send your romantic riddle, dating dilemma or canoodling conundrum to ask[at]askkeeley.com.