I think that there are two issues that you are dealing with here: The first is how he conducts himself when he is with you; the second is what he is thinking. I do think that it is very disrespectful for him ogle other woman when he is out with you. That’s just poor form. Now, if you are not around or the moment is right, and he sneaks a quick peek… more power to him. You can’t control what he is thinking. (And in fact, chances are, you don’t want to know what he is thinking half the time.)

As far as what you do or do not fantasize about, similar to the case of your boyfriend, that is your business. I do have a hard time believing that you never think about another man “that way” though. Maybe it is not the guy at the coffee shop, but I bet there is some guy you fantasize about: a movie star, T.V. show actor or, perhaps, a certain handsome Dating Team advice-giver (wink-wink). At any rate, I think it is fair to call him out on the fact that he is scoping women in your presence, but you simply can’t take him to task on every thought that runs through his mind.

Zac, 27, is a broke Harvard grad student with an unhealthy obsession for Boston sports teams. Sorry ladies, he’s engaged.