I have to ask the question “How honest your relationship is” because under normal circumstances I would say you need not, feel too threatened by your boyfriend looking at that woman, however I’m wondering how safe you really feel in this relationship.

There is a difference between ogling and appreciation and only you know if he’s the sort of guy who ogles every woman he sees even when he’s with you because if he is that sort of guy you really do have a problem, because constant ogling shows a lack of respect for the person he is with.

Without honesty in a relationship there is no relationship and you have to know where your boundaries lie and what you will and will not accept.

Julia Hartley Moore is New Zealand and Australia’s most recognized Private Investigator—male or female. A regular columnist for women’s magazines, Julia is sought after for her expert advice and commentary on human nature, relationships, and infidelity issues. She wrote Infidelity Sleuth.