I believe that all the right answers lay within us at all times, and when we clear our minds of chatter and fear, the perfect answers are revealed to us. So I think if you get quiet, still your thoughts about these two men and listen to your gut and heart, you will know who you should be with. I think first you need to be honest and ask yourself “What am I looking for—now and long term?” and “Who will make me a better person and who will I make better?” Is lust worth losing a soul mate over? Maybe yes, maybe no. Only you know in your heart what the right choice is.

Taylor Wilshire has been the vice president of sales and marketing for a company ranked in the top fifty of the Fortune 500 listing while simultaneously studying theology for twenty years. She became an ordained minister in 1991 and has taught seminars on spirituality and personal growth. Witnessing the power of the spiritual quest in her own life and in the lives of her students inspired her to share her experiences in The What-If Guy, her first novel. Taylor lives in Southern California with her husband and two children.