Trust is one of the most important aspects in any relationship, and broken trust is hard to mend and certainly never forgotten. Do you really want to settle for a man whose stick is global, so to speak? It sounds like you don’t, so bravo!

While men (and women) may be tempted to cheat, most do not act on the impulse and it remains a brief moment of mental abandonment. Those that do cheat have some serious issues of insecurity they must address or tend to be adrenaline junkies in constant need of excitement.

While the cheater may state, “It’s not personal, it’s physical,” that does not excuse the violation and is an unconvincing justification for breaking someone’s trust. The most common mistake that men or women make once they find out their partner has cheated is to ignore the situation or pass it off as, “It wasn’t personal.” While the cheating partner may believe it wasn’t personal, it eventually becomes personal because it deeply affects the non-cheating partner.

Additionally, the cheating partner is exposing their “loved one” to life-threatening diseases such as AIDS. When you love someone would you risk their life by exposing them to dangerous sexually-transmitted diseases?

If a relationship starts out with cheating, where will it end up? Keep your woods clean and cut down infected trees. In other words, stay with sticks that stay in their own woods and remove the diseased tree.

P.S. The National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago published a survey in 2002 that stated 22 percent of men cheat. One more thing to think about: Someone caught stealing is rarely sorry because they stole, they are only sorry because they were caught.

Jaci Rae is the author of Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time: How to Score For Men and Women. Her grit and determination brought Jaci from a poor childhood to a successful career as a singer and relationship expert who tours around the world. She is the recipient of the “Female Vocalist of the Year” award at the Golden Music Awards in Nashville, TN as well as a Barnes & Noble and Amazon #1 Best seller. Jaci lives in California where she spends her spare time working on her music, writing and hanging out with family and friends. For more information about Jaci Rae or her books check out www.winningromance.com.