It seems as though there are several layers to your question. In answer to your question do most men “want” to cheat, I’d argue that the answer is no. However, I will admit that most men are physically attracted to other women (lots of other women) and that they certainly do fantasize about being with them. This may seem contradictory, but I think there is an important distinction between the two. Men do have a biological predisposition to sleep with as many women as possible, but there is also an equally powerful—if not more powerful—societal pressure and resulting desire to be monogamous. I honestly believe that at some level, most men want to find their soul mate, settle down and get married.

Ultimately, I believe that men who cheat are doing so for one of three reasons: They are narcissistic, egocentric (but ultimately insecure) asses; they are unhappy with their current relationship and are looking for a way out; or they are too immature for a real relationship.

The reason secure men don’t cheat has little to do with a fear of getting in trouble for being caught. Rather, the reason that a man who really loves a woman does not cheat is that he thinks about how much it would hurt her if she found out. I guarantee that any man who thinks about it from that perspective will have no temptation.

Zac, 27, is a broke Harvard grad student with an unhealthy obsession for Boston sports teams. Sorry ladies, he’s engaged.