My mother had an expression: "Chase him until he catches you." That's one approach. It turns the cat-mouse/hunter-prey game on its head by telling the woman she has to be the predator, even if the guy thinks otherwise.

The early stages of any courtship are all about games. Some are just more fun to play than others. Unfortunately for a lot of men, games are all relationships are about and often these guys just live for the chase. The chase, in fact, is so hard-wired into some guys' DNA that they never get beyond it. They can't develop real relationships. It's important for women to recognize these types of guys and understand that even if they succeed in getting this guy to the altar, he's never really going to change.

Even women who adore being pursued (for every guy who is crazy for the hunt, there's a woman out there who is crazy for being pursued) eventually want the period of game playing to be over. For many women, the chase is fun for a short period of time, although no one can really know or pass judgment on what another person's time table is.

Personally, I adore a good, flirty chase - for a while. But if I become seriously interested at just about the same time that they become not interested, I'm out of there. That behavior on the part of any man you're dating is a neon warning sign that the relationship for this guy is all about the chase and nothing more. It's a cue that he's miles away from developing something that might turn into a genuine, meaningful relationship. And that means it's time to move on.

Eve Marx is a graduate of Columbia University Teacher's College. She is the author of Read My Hips: The Sexy Art of Flirtation , What's Your Sexual IQ? and The Goddess Orgasm . She was the editor at Penthouse Forum and Swank Magazine. She has also edited High Society and Celebrity Skin magazines, and was a producer for Penthouse Phone Sex Tapes.