Let's be honest with ourselves ladies: When a man is interested, and then you go out a few times and he becomes uninterested, I would bet that he just doesn't think the two of you are compatible. How did the "men are in it for the chase" rational become the default excuse?

The default excuse I mention can be damaging because you are missing out on what is really going on in your dating life. Many times women are so ready for a commitment that we are more than willing to overlook deficiencies in the compatibility with someone we are just beginning to date. Men are less likely to do this.

The role of the hunter is no doubt an inherent biological trait that men tend to carry. But don't ignore the fact that there is also an inherent desire for human connection and intimacy with another person. Yes, of course there are times in a man's life when he avoids commitment at all costs - usually in his early-to mid-20's, and for some men that might be a very conservative estimate. But we all date because ultimately we are looking for that connection, a lifelong partner who understands us and makes us feel like there is a deeper purpose to our existence. At the end of the day men are not different: They operate with those same intentions.

So put aside the expectations that men are in it for the chase, and focus on what is going on between you and whom it is you are dating. Maybe you are dating men who are too young, too focused on themselves or too involved in complicated situations. Real relationships don't develop from a chase; they develop from two people who connect. When that connection happens there will be no question about it. It might last forever or it might be brief-either way, enjoy it when it happens. And in the interim, enjoy dating for what it is: A collection of horror stories that provide hours of entertainment for you and your friends.