I can totally understand how this could be a very difficult situation for you and make you have feelings of insecurity. If your relationship with him is strong, I would start by sharing your feelings with him. Don’t whine about it; just let him know how certain things make you feel. He may not even realize that he is hurting you and once he is aware, he may be able to do things that reassure you, whether it is curtailing the calls, acting more professional and/or businesslike, etc. If, in the end, this is just the nature of his job and nothing can be done, then the next thing to work on is you.
One thing you should keep in mind is that everybody, even the most beautiful of women, goes through times of insecurity. You have to remind yourself of all the accomplishments that you have made and what makes you a special person to be with. Don’t worry about what other people have or are doing; concentrate on all the wonderful things you have to offer.
Secondly, there are reasons that he has picked to be with you over all the models he encounters on a daily basis. You obviously have something more to offer than they do, whether it is a great personality, intelligence, sense of humor or maybe you are just plain more fun. There are certain things that beauty can never compare to and that is the physical, psychological and emotional connection you have with him, the understanding you share and, most importantly, your love for him.
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| SarahL -- Los Angeles | |
| It's so nice to hear that even playboy girls can feel insecure sometimes--I know I do all the time! But Bridget is right, we need to remind ourselves that obviously we have a lot of great qualities, otherwise our men wouldn't be with us in the first place! | |
| Betsy -- Torrance | |
| "One thing you should keep in mind is that everybody, even the most beautiful of women, goes through times of insecurity." I completely agree with this statement. Even the women you know who seem to have everything "pulled together" most likely have a ton of insecurities they are keeping hidden. We all have them, but just some women keep them more private than others... | |