When getting to know your date, it is important to utilize open-ended queries that allow him to reveal his personality. Avoid close-ended questions or those that have a forced choice. Better, "Tell me about the last stripper you dated,” than "Are looks important to you?" With the former, you are creating a format for an open dialogue with description and insight into your date's preferences and dislikes. With the latter, you are pinning him down to a simple "yes/no" response with little to no room for expansion.

Of course, the content is as equally important as the style. As we all know, there are certain taboo questions on first dates: "How much money do you make?" or "Can you meet my parents tomorrow?" and "Don’t you hope I'm ovulating the first time we have sex? You know, about 11 months from now?" are all deal-breakers. These questions demonstrate shallowness, poor boundaries and prudishness, respectively. Additionally, asking questions about topics that are unfamiliar or undesirable to the average man is ill-advised. "What brand of tampon did your last girlfriend use?" and "Which episode of The View last week was your favorite?" are examples of poor questioning.