Hmm, you do have a problem! While sex isn’t “everything” in a relationship, a relationship where the sex is horrible or doesn’t exist at all is doomed to go nowhere.

It’s very promising that you say the guy is so into you. There’s hope you can make this work! I think it’s good that you set a precedent for what’s going to happen next by asking him about his likes and dislikes and expressing yours. It means he knows what’s high on your boudoir agenda. Try avoiding actual intercourse for a while. Reacquaint yourself (and him) with foreplay basics such as stroking, licking, fondling, kissing, frottage (that’s two naked or nearly naked bodies rubbing against one another—or what they used to call the “dry hump” back in high school.) Begin by asking him to pleasure you. Don’t be shy about telling him exactly where you’d like him to put his fingers, tongue and hands. Most guys, especially when they’re not familiar with your body or your particular tastes or levels of response, do need direction! Encourage him to bring you to orgasm; knowing he’s gotten you off will boost his confidence level in case part of his problem (the going limp part) has something to do with erotic failures in his past.

Remember that for every new couple, what happens in bed should be a clean slate. Whatever he was doing before, he can learn how to do something else now. The next time you’re together, take over the role of pleasuring him. Remember, at all times, that you are really into him…every part! Don’t rush back to the place where you’re engaging in actual penetration until you’ve gotten past the weird noises and faces part…unless those noises you think are weird are just howls of male pleasure! Oh, and by the way, most guys do get a strange look on their face at the moment they’re climaxing. A lot of women do, too!

Eve Marx is a graduate of Columbia University and the author of six dating and sexual relationship books including “10 Nights of Passion,” “What’s Your Sexual IQ?,” “The Goddess Orgasm,” “Read My Hips” and the newly released “Flirtspeak: The Sexy Language of Flirtation.” She lives in Westchester County, New York, just north of Manhattan. Her website is www.evemarx.com