Unless your lover is Jim Carrey, extremely weird noises and faces (and I’m assuming that we are not talking about “normal” displays of sexual excitement or you would not have written) are something that you are not likely to get over, no matter how much “communication” you engage in about your likes and dislikes. (Hypothetical conversation: You: “Honey, you are fabulous in every way except that I am completely repulsed by the freakish faces and disgusting noises that you make when we are making love.” Him: “Darling, I am so glad that you told me. Dr. Phil would be so proud that we are communicating. I will try my best to control my facial expressions and love making noises, but it may be difficult considering that I’m already trying my best just to keep an erection.)

Whatever you do, don’t fall into the “any relationship is better than being single” trap that many women seem to fall into. I interviewed 100 divorce lawyers for my recent book and women with the “Someone Is Better Than No One” mindset just end up in these lawyers’ waiting rooms after a few years of marriage.

You sound like you are trying to convince yourself that this man’s other endearing qualities will make up for what ultimately will be a nonexistent sex life. No matter how wonderful he is in other ways, your frustration with your sex life will ultimately destroy your relationship. Many, many divorces are the result of marriages which break up after years of just Anniversary Sex and Birthday Sex and, finally, no sex at all.