Two whole months, huh? That is an amazing feat of self-discipline and control! Maybe we should name a national holiday after you or give you a star on the Walk of Fame. (I hope you can sense my sarcasm…I’m laying it on pretty thick.)

I hate to point out the obvious, but what did you expect? Great sexual relationships are built upon great emotional and intellectual foundations. If you only dated him for two months, you didn’t have adequate time to cultivate the deep emotional intimacy needed to share earth-moving sex. The guy could just be inexperienced in the sack or have Mr. Happy problems, but the most likely explanation is that the two of you don’t know each other well enough to be rolling around naked. It’s hard (pun intended) to be completely comfortable and vulnerable with someone you have only known for a couple of months.

My best guess is that by the time you read this, you won’t have to worry about the bad sex—the relationship will already be over. Guys often use kind gestures and loving emotions to get sex and once they have it, they have little use for the romantic fluff. If you “gave up the goods” in only two months, there is a really good chance that the relationship is not being built upon the right foundation and will crumble quickly. Despite what Maxim and Sex in the City may think, there is a reason that our grandparents’ generation experiences far less divorce and heartbreak than we do—they waited to share the deepest level of physical intimacy until they had the deepest level of commitment (marriage). Maybe you ought to adopt that strategy as well.

Jason Illian is a multi-talented national speaker, successful corporate executive and television personality. For the last decade, Jason has toured the US, sharing the message that romantic love is built upon God's unconditional love. He garnered national attention when he shocked pop culture in 2005 on ABC's, “The Bachelorette” by announcing that he was a virgin. He is also the author of "Undressed: The Naked Truth about Love, Sex, and Dating.” To find out more about Jason go to www.jasonillian.com