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Jason Illian is a multi-talented national speaker, successful corporate executive and television personality. For the last decade, Jason has toured the US, sharing the message that romantic love is built upon God's unconditional love. He garnered national attention when he shocked pop culture in 2005 on ABC's, “The Bachelorette” by announcing that he was a virgin. He is also the author of "Undressed: The Naked Truth about Love, Sex, and Dating
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| bgeorgopulos@aidforwomen.org -- Chicago | |
| WOW!! It is SO refreshing to hear a guy say that! After studying the trends in history, it was extremely apparent to me that the common theme of the degredation of a society began with its lack of respect for each other. I'm thoroghly convinced that it begins with our sexuality and you really nailed it on the head in your response. | |
| swan480 | |
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Jason's response is so old-fashioned it's offensive. He's basically reviving the "All guys want is sex, all girls want is commitment" stereotype. Our grandparents' time is not something we want to go back to. Women were beaten and raped by their husbands, worked like slaves for absolutely no pay or rights of their own, and watched unfaithful husbands drink away the family income. The only reason there wasn't more divorce back then is because it wasn't culturally acceptable - women weren't given enough worth to determine what they deserved out of their own lives. So don't tell me there's more divorce now because women are freer to have sex than they were in the past. That's an insult to everything the women's movement tried to achieve for us. |
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| KLB678 | |
| Summing up Jason's response in one word: cheesy. First off, it is unnecessary to point out that you are laying on the sarcasm pretty thick when it is already beyond evident. Not to mention that as a virgin his response is practically invalid. His advice is idealistic and ridiculous. Clearly this woman thought waiting two months was challenging, so I commend her for holding out. Two months is a short waiting period for some, long for others. It is a personally relevant matter, and not grounds for judgment. If this woman had waited a year or (wince) till marriage, the sex would not be better due to a deeper emotional connection. Sex would be a less exciting part of the relationship. And honey, sex is crucial. Move on. | |
| Olivia -- Tucson | |
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I agree. People haven't changed in the past few decades, but society has. It's simply become more acceptable for couples to get divorced. Before, people didn't have the option and stayed in unhappy marriages. Now, they can get out and pursue happiness no matter how old they are.
| LILA -- Los Angeles | |
| Jason's being way too idealistic. Sure, when you have an emotional connection to someone, the sex is most likely going to be wonderful, but it's really more about energy. If there are two people that are on the same sex wavelength, they are bound to have mind-blowing sex, irrespective of whether they are in love or not. Furthermore, Jason, I think you paint a really simple picture about our grandparents' generation. There were much less divorces in their day largely due to societal constraints, not simply because they understood or respected love a lot more than we do. | |
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