There’s an old adage, “Timing is everything.” Well, sugar, this holds true in your situation. I don’t know your age or where you are in your life, nor do I have specifics about your man. But to answer your questions with the minute information I have, I would have to say—if he’s not there yet, he’s not there yet. And the harder you push him toward the aisle, the further he will march in the opposite direction.

If you feel that this time in your life is the right time to marry, and the particular man is not an issue, go find a guy who is ready to tie the proverbial knot. If this is the guy for you and you are absolutely, positively sure that you want to marry him, you will have to wait for him to be ready. Now, just because you want to marry him, it does not mean that he wants to marry you—or ever will. So you may end up waiting in vain.

Has he ever discussed marriage with you, without you bringing up the subject? Does he speak freely about a “happily ever after” with you in the picture? If not, he may be enjoying your company right now but have no intention of ever walking down the aisle with you. You should find out from him if he ever really intends on becoming your husband before you spend another ounce of energy worrying about how to get this guy to propose. There is another old adage to keep in mind… and it has to do with what happens when one assumes.

Keeley Smith, a relationship expert and advice columnist, has been dishing the proverbial dirt on dating for five years. Her advice column …ask Keeley! can be read on numerous dating sites, entertainment sites and in a plethora of publications worldwide. Give her column a Google to read previously posted questions and answers. If you need some sage advice send your romantic riddle, dating dilemma or canoodling conundrum to ask[at]askkeeley.com.